Many times it happens that we are not able to control our anger and make statements which hurt others. We may be right in getting angry, but not necessarily in our expression. Sometime it is NOT possible to control ourselves. Most of us succumb to such moments.
However, when we continue our anger and let our EGO not allow us to make first move towards reconciliation, we lose out. If we can practice to think objectively post our argument, and make first move to solve the issue at hand, we have won the battle. Remember, post such splash, both the parties are feeling bad about the incident and are highly susceptible towards compromise. First mover advantage gives you the upper hand.
Psychologist call this exercise as building your "Let Go" muscles. This is the first step towards winning over your anger. Once "Let Go" muscles are strengthened, our ability to remain calm under tense situation also improves.
Try this out and win over your adversaries.